Tuesday, 16 April 2013

"Pauly falls in love"

Over the last few years I really feel like I've started living the life i had craved since as far back as i can remember. Strange thing to say at the age of almost 33 but it's only been these years that I've actually felt that I am where I'm supposed to be. My whole world was transformed when I met Mrs M, I remember the first time I saw her as if it were only yesterday and from that moment I was truly smitten, turned out she had noticed me weeks earlier but was unsure about me. (apparently i didn't seem like i took anything seriously) I've wanted to write this post about her for a year but wanted to make sure the right things were said, also i never found the right moment but as we're soon to be starting our wedding plans it seemed like a fitting time.

We exchanged pleasentries on that first day and I remember her walking away and thinking to myself 'I've got to see here again' we bumped into each other many times around uni and there were flirty words (from my side at least), but it wasn't until one of my morning classes when things really fell into place. I was at uni studying ceramics and Mrs M was having doubts about the course that she was on and wanted to try something new. she gatecrashed my at the time uneventful lesson. We were told to pair off with someone and everyone found a partner but me and you know who. I'd never really believed in fate but here it was forcing us together and giving me the chance I craved.

The lesson was making a ceramic bust of your partner and as we got in close measuring each others facial features we chatted about music and life, turns out that despite us both having obscure music taste we liked a lot of the same things. The three hours sculpting each other was very romantic even if her bust of me looked like a young bill cosby and I was making her look like sinead o'conner. I was hooked. We went out for lunch that day and I was flirting like mad, I felt like it was my first crush and I didn't know what to do. Our talking about music continued and we decided to swap iPods. I think for at least the first week my headphones barely left my ears and we would spend our evenings texting each other with 'listen to this track' trying to let each other know how we were feeling through the music we loved. (i remember sitting in the bathroom listening to Rue Royale - Even in the darkness on repeat for about half an hour one night). This is something that is still going on now. Some couples have 'their song', we have 'our playlist' consisting of over 100 songs so far that are important to us and each song takes us to a place in our past.

As cheesy as it sounds our first date was the best night of my life. I'd never really pegged myself as romantic, but that night we sat in a bar that was heaving yet we barely took our eyes off each other and I felt like the only people in there. She looked beautiful and I've never known anyone smell so good. I didn't want the night to end and even though she had to get the last train home I stayed on the phone to her for over an hour until she reached her front door. (Was I starting to believe in love at first sight?)

We were pretty much insepererable from that point on, and even when we both ended up homeless due to our awkward living situations I knew that leaving Birmingham was what I needed to be closer to her. She had Seth and by this point i had met him and i was already smitten by him too. We finally found somewhere to live and me, Mrs M and Seth were a family, almost everything I ever wanted.

Even a week in to knowing each other the conversation of marriage and children had come up and I explained that at nearly 30 I had pretty much given up on that ever happening. I had never been with the right person and if I'm honest I had never been truly happy. My life at this point though was like a slow burning firework waiting to explode. Everything was going perfectly and this beautiful woman had turned my dismal life around. As the months went by marriage and babies came up more frequently in conversation (i had even suprised myself by starting to write a book for my inevitable proposal) and then one day after a pretty in depth chat we decided to try for a baby. We were both still at uni but it seemed right and after only a month of trying, the day after my 30th birthday we had the news I had been so desperate for for 14 years. Again this overwhelming happiness I was feeling was all because of one amazing woman.

Now it's not always been a smooth journey for us. As I'm writing this I'm thinking of all the amazing moments we've shared so far but we have been through some really hard situations. Way more than many couples but each time an obstacle is thrown at us we stay solid for each other. When your partner is also your best friend though you will push yourself far beyond what you think you are capable of. We have both gone out of our way to make each other happy but Mrs M did something that although crazy and life threatening made me the happiest i could ever be. Our pregnancy with Opeie was so rough and when a Dr gave us a 1 in 3 chance of Mrs M surviving it seemed like a termination was our only and safest way out. But she woudn't except that and soldiered on through 9 months of hell (is the only way i can describe it) all for her love of me and her desperation for us to have a child together. She was and will always be my hero.

You would think after such an awful pregnancy the birth would have been nice and easy to make up for it, but no! that was filled with drama too and was a very scary 17 hours but again this amazing woman battled through it all with me doing everything i could to help her through. Opeie was born and through all the heartache, the worry and the stress, she had given me the one thing i was so desperate for, a child and a beautiful one at that. i had never felt love like what i felt that day. someone who would go to the ends of the earth for me and a child that i knew was going to get everything that i had to give

It took some time but Mrs M got back to full health and our family was where it was supposed to be. i am reminded daily of how lucky i am to have her in my life. She truly is an amazing person. I was always desperate to be a stay at home dad and Mrs M working on her career has given me the chance to put all my energy in to Opeie and Seth when he is with us. The thing that has always been consistant in our relationship is we always put each other first and it really is the little things that matter. The passionate kisses when the boys are not in the room, the little messages written around the house and the weekly romantic gestures.

I could sit and write about Mrs M for days, this post only touches the surface on how i actually feel about her but i hope you get the idea. If your regular reader then you will understand why i have written this post. She is the most important person to me. She is the person that turned my world around and has made me the partner and father i am today.

I love you Laura more than you will ever know xxxx


Em @ snowingindoors said...

That is a beautiful post, I'm glad your story has such a happy ending xx

The Brick Castle said...

That's really excellent, so sweet. What a lovely book. Your wife is clearly a very special woman :)

Laura-Faerie said...

This is just beautiful :)

When do you guys get married? My fiance and I have our wedding booked in August next year, we've got nothing else planned, though, and I can't wait!

GiftsFromThePirates said...

Hey Em, thanks it could have so easily gone the wrong way. but were here to tell the tale and our relationship is so strong because of it. i feel very lucky xx

GiftsFromThePirates said...

Ive never met anyone like her. Thanks for reading xx

GiftsFromThePirates said...

thank you, we haven't planned it yet but we will be as soon as the flight prices come out for next year. im so excited.
Congrats to you both hope you don't find the organising to stressful xx

The Beesley Buzz said...

beautiful! What a truly amazing lady. xxx

GiftsFromThePirates said...

she sure is. I'm a very lucky guy xx

claire moore said...

Im in tears now pauly xx

GiftsFromThePirates said...

I certainly didn't want to make anyone cry. Thanks for reading though Claire xx

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