Sunday, 14 September 2014

"There is no success without hardship."

Although i concentrate on mainly the fun and positive side of our week as a family, parenting isn't always a walk in the park and although becoming a dad has completely changed my life for the better, with it has brought strains on mine and Mrs M's relationship. We've got a great relationship, she is my best friend and I love her dearly but it's not perfect (is any relationship?). Things were so much easier when there were no young children in the house but Opeie's beautiful little smile and addictive personality far outweigh anything that is going on with Mrs M. 

Opeie is my first child, i met Seth at 3 so I really didn't know what to expect from younger children and how demanding they can be. I believe that to make a relationship work with children it's important to make time for yourselves as a couple but this can become really difficult when one of you has a very demanding job and when your children don't share your views on the importance of mommy/daddy time.

Life style choices have also ended up having a knock on effect down the line and although I know that Opeie co-sleeping was the right decision for us and his development I cant help but feel i am getting to the point where I think its run it's course now and selfishly I want our bed back (I know! terrible daddy!).

Saturday morning was a real wake up call and has made me realise just how much you have to work at you're relationship to keep it on the path it is meant to be on. I know i am exactly where i am supposed to be and I am quite sure that Mrs M feels the same and although our time together is limited with all of the other weekly commitments that we have, Its amazing to know we are actually there for each other. It turns out that Saturdays kick up the bum motivated us to get the boys in to bed a little earlier and dedicate some time for 'us' which i think we both needed.

I feel so lucky to have two beautiful boys and an adorable wife to be who provides for us and works really hard. I know i get stressed at times at the lack of 'us time' but ive realised i do need to stop over thinking everything and this is the norm for many couples. We both have a tiring day (even though Mrs M thinks me and Opeie spend our days just high fiving each other) but with a little patience and making the effort to put aside some time every now and again for us as a couple things will always work themselves out.

I know you will get round to reading this at some point Mrs M but i just want you to know that i am (and always will be) so in love with you and there is no one i would rather be spending my time with. you're excessively wide manatee feet are beautiful (and entertaining) and you may be verging on 'possible crazy cat lady' status but you are perfect for me. You have the singing voice of an army of squealing cats but you can bust a move and your dance moves more than make up for the racket. I do get a little twirly when you want to shake it to 'time of my life' ("no body puts baby in the corner").

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